Human relations

 Human relations

                U.G.KRISHNAMURTHI

      It is just not possible to establish any relationship with anything around you including your near and dear ones except on the level of what you can get out of the relationship. You see, the whole thing springs from this separation or isolation that human beings live in today. We are isolated from the rest of creation. the rest of life around us. We all live in individual frames. We try to establish a relationship at the level of, `What do I get out of that relationship?` We use others to try and fill this viod that is created as a result of our isolation.

We always want to fill this emptiness, this void, with all kinds of relationships with people around us. That is really the problem. We have to use enverything---an idea, a person, anything we can get hold of --to establish relationships with others. Without relationships we are lost and we don`t see any meaning, we don`t see any purpose. This is because your only interest is to create a purposeful and meaningful relationship with the individuals and world around you. Therefore, you want to understand the reality of the world but there is nothing to understand. There is no such thing as reality at all. Anything you do to understand the reality of the world is not going to be useful , helpful or meaningful.

             WE are not honest, decorous and decent enough to admit that all relationships are built on the fuoundation of, " What do I get out of this relationship?" It is nothing but mutual gratification. If that is absent no relationship is possible. You keep the relationship going for social reasons or for reasons of children, property and security. All this is part and parcel of the relationship business but when it fails and does not give us what we really want we superimpose on it what we call love. So it is just not possible to have any relationship on any basis except on the level of mutual gratification.

         What an an amount of energy we are putting into making our relationship into a loving thing! It is a battle , a war. It is like preparing yourself all the time for war hoping that there will be peace, eternal peace, or this or that. you are tired of this battle and you even settle for that horrible, non-loving relationship. And you hope and dream one day it will be nothing but love, "Love thy neighbor as thyself". In the name of that how many millions of people have been killed ? More than all the recent wars put together. How can you ove thy neighbor as thyself? It is just not possible. Obviously, otherwise why are so many people , women , children and helpless people killed.